Contributed by Minnie Sarmiento
Anger is, in one way, defined as a “strong feeling of displeasure.” It is a powerful emotion, so much so that it has been labeled a universal sin. It happens all the time and to all kinds of people. A perfectly happy relationship can be ruined when someone’s displeasure surfaces. Anger is tricky because unlike fear, the Scriptures say there is an appropriate time to be angry: “In your anger, do not sin.” (Ephesians 4.26)
One can become engaged over the mistreatment of a child or an animal, and if it is within his/her power, he/she must move to put a stop to the situation.
Following are two ways to check onerself for bitterness of a stiuation:
1. LISTEN TO YOURSELF.
When you speak, do you make sarcastic, cutting, or heated remarks about the person toard whom you have a ‘strong feeling of displeasure?’ Whenever his or her name is mentioned, do you have something negative to say?
If you seen this situation in your own life, you must have identified some anger that you have to deal with. Speech is the first indicator of a bitterness problem.
2. OBSERVE YOUR OWN ACTIONS.
You may not overtly attack the person with whom you are angry, but how about the many subtle ways of getting your point across?
The silent treatment, for example. Silence speaks volumes and in case you think other people don’t notice the tension your ‘displeasure causes, think again! You may be priding yourself on the restraint you have shown in not attacking openly, but no matter how you tried to hide it, unresolved anger will show.
As a grateful individual, you are instructed to choose your words carefully, so as to build others up through wholesome, honest encouragement. (Ephesians 4.29). So look for the good in others and celebrate the good you find. As the old saying goes, “When someone does something good, applaud; you’ll make two people happy !”